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POST PARTUM BODY CONFIDENCE

Filed Under: BODY POSITIVITY, HOME, MOTHERHOOD // October 17, 2021

POST PARTUM BODY CONFIDENCE

 

We download the apps for conception, we read the books for pregnancy and we prepare ourselves for life as a new parent. We attempt to arm ourselves with as much knowledge and equipment to raise this tiny human as we physically can as we run in bewildered into the world of the new born. I am sure you are 100% prepared for this! Or are you? Did anyone mention or happen to tell you what you’re going to notice within yourself after you give birth? Has anyone actually first hand told you what to expect to see when you look in the mirror after childbirth. No, no one told me either. So here it is. The honesty, the raw information you need to know including preparing you on how to welcome in those new found wobbly bits ladies and gain post partum body confidence.

We spend our lives attempting to fit into societies framework of how we are ‘supposed’ to look. We try fad diets, couch to 5K programmes and all sorts of changes to help convince ourselves that our bodies are beautiful & in optimum health. We allow ourselves to become categorised by a shape like hourglass, pear, apple and so on but what about the shape of a mother. You’ve probably spent years perfecting your figure and learning to love yourself the way you are however you’re about to start the journey again. 

When you have a baby your pre baby body shape will pretty much be gone. You will have created a new shape which more than likely will be the polar opposite to the shame you where before your beautiful bundle of joy came along. This however isn’t a bad thing at all so don’t panic however it’s the start along a very delicate journey of self acceptance that no one tells us women about. We pretty much have to learn to love ourselves and our bodies all over again including parts that we may not even be able to look at yet let alone accept. 

Remember ladies this is not a sprint, its a marathon and its a slow and steady journey. Every women’s journey will be individual to them however were all going to be there  with one another.

The first thing i would say you need to do is look in the mirror naked! That’s right mama get those girls out in full frontal view and look at yourself, look at the body that carried and birthed life into this world and before you say anything else i want you to feel gratitude towards this body, feel happiness that you managed something so beautiful and wonderful & don’t ever hate the vessel that carried a life because without it we wouldn’t have the next generation. 

Now those wobbly bits – I know i know, i hear you shouting but honestly we ALL have them. Some in the same places and others in totally different. You don’t have to like them but you do need to accept them for what they are otherwise you wont be able to learn to accept yourself  and new found shape. Your shape has changed so here’s what we do, we SHOP! Get your partner to have the baby or if your not ready then head online for the goodies and grab some garms because you need to figure out what works for your new founded shape and the only way to do that is to try it all on. Try on silhouettes you previously wouldn’t have even considered because trust me, you’ll be very surprised with what suits you now. Give yourself the time to do this and all the while learn about your body as you go. 

 

As comfortable as  they are girl we cannot live our lives in oversized tees and leggings – trust me tried it & it damaged my self esteem and mental health. I found about 18 months after my son was born i hated myself, so i drowned myself out in oversized tees and ill fitted leggings in the hopes i would wake up and feel differently and this just led to damaging mindsets and depression. I needed to make a change. So i did the on-line shopping business and learned my body had taken on a new shape that i actually learnt to love – The Mummy Shape! I wore jeans again, fitted tops, dresses  and dumped the oversized shitty tees that where not doing me any favours and my self esteem began to rebuild, don’t get me wrong i didn’t LOVE my new wobbly bits but i took the time to accept that i have changed and I work with it instead of fighting against it and that’s the hardest part. 

Some women will go through a phase where they mourn their pre baby body and i absolutely get that however don’t let that mourning turn into a depressive mind set, exchange it for determination and fuel to help you love yourself again. Lets not forget ladies we birthed a child, a full human was carried by us safely. We then delivered that child using our bodies . Let that sink in. 

If you cannot find it within yourself to show your body some love right now because your journey is only just beginning i totally get that however the very least your body deserves is gratitude for doing what it has. There’s no one to teach us how to carry babies and deliver them, we are just guided by other peoples experiences and advise which in turn can be a far cry from what we experience. Essentially we are the ones with all the skills that we don’t even know we have yet. So be grateful that your body can adapt, change, grow and keep safe something so precious. 

Now i don’t know about you but i have been left with some scars from my babies delivery and a handful of stretch marks. I was so relaxed in my pregnancy amount getting stretch marks however i know a lot of you worry about this aesthetic change but don’t worry yourself too much because the stretch marks carry a reminder of how incredible your body was to adapt, don’t look at them as ugly, horrible, obvious and silvery change you’re focus and look at them as inspiring, beautiful, strong & womanly. Those glittery silver streaks remind me daily of how my body adapted in one of the most beautiful ways it could. Embrace them and love them, don’t cover them up or hide. They are apart of you and you’re journey and story into motherhood. 

Grab a piece of paper and notice how flat and perfect it is, now scrunch that bitch up and squeeze it to a inch of its life. Now flatten it out again and make it look the way it used to – It wont, no matter how hard you try because those creases left behind are reminders of how that paper had to adapt under intense change and pressure. They are a sign of survival & strength similarly to our stretch marks. Learning to love and accept them will change your relationship with how you see yourself & this will help you self esteem bundles. I promise. 

We are incredible women, who achieve incredible things and one of those is carrying a life and birthing it and if that doesn’t make you honour your beautiful body then nothing will. You are beautiful just the way you are, wobbly bits and all. Loving yourself and self care is a journey so don’t rush yourself, travel at your own pace but if you do one thing positive every day let it be this – Remind yourself how beautiful you are even if you don’t feel it. Make this your daily mantra. 

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL & YOUR BODY IS INCREDIBLE!!

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BUSTING VAGINA MYTHS | COMMON MYTHS THAT ARE COMPLETELY FALSE

Filed Under: BODY POSITIVITY, LIFE, SEX & RELATIONSHIPS // February 22, 2021

BUSTING VAGINA MYTH

In my 28 years of having a vagina I have heard a LOT of myths surrounding it and as a teenager I believed every single one. It’s no secret that women don’t discuss their vagina’s anywhere near as much as men talk about their penis’ – however it’s not through lack of interest. We just don’t feel the need to strike up a conversation about it every chance we get. With that being said, the less we talk about something, the more wide spread & bizarre the myths and rumours get. So we are here, busting vagina myths!

THAT YOUR VAGINA SHOULD SELF LUBRICATE ON CUE

Funnily enough, no. As much as people like to think vagina’s are ready at the flick of a finger, NO! I think as a younger person you associate “vaginal dryness” with older women, but it is actually incredibly normal! Things such as breastfeeding, certain medications and going through menopause can impact your self lubrication. Foreplay is incredibly important for women, not just because it can feel good.. DUH, but to make sure we are prepped and ready for sex. Also, lube exists for a reason.

THE MORE YOU MASTURBATE, THE LESS SENSITIVE YOUR VAGINA WILL BECOME

The “logic” behind this is that the more you do it, the more your body gets used to it, so stops responding – especially when using vibrating toys. There is also the myth that other things won’t feel as good because your body grows accustom to your toy. Which is all completely false. There is absolutely no evidence to back any of this up and has someone who has used vibrating toys for… 10 years.. i’m all good thank you.

HAVING LOTS OF SEX OR A BABY CAN CAUSE LOOSENESS”

The vaginal muscles are incredibly stretchy and whilst obviously the vagina does expand when aroused or to give birth – it shrinks back to its normal size! So having lots of sex or a baby does NOT affect vaginal “tightness”.

THAT WOMEN CAN COME FROM VAGINAL STIMULATION ALONE

Did you know only 30% of women can come from penetrative sex alone? I am gonna tell you right now that I am NOT one of those women. There’s a reason the clitoris is the only body part that’s use is SOLELY for pleasure. Penetrative sex is not the be all and end all of orgasms. Every vagina is different and everyone’s body reacts differently – explore and discover what you like!

THAT DISCHARGE MEANS YOUR VAGINA IS DIRTY

WRONG. It is totally normal and HEALTHY to have vaginal discharge. Discharge is actually the vagina’s way of self cleaning (PLEASE LEAVE YOUR VAGINA ALONE WHEN IT COMES TO CLEANING!), it is full of healthy bacteria and protects against infections. Obviously you know your body (and what comes out of it), so if you experience any itchiness, a change in smell, more discharge than normal then get a self-test or go to the doctor.

ALL LABIAS LOOK A SPECIFIC WAY

I can’t even… no. NO NO NO. Despite its size, shape or length… your labia is NORMAL.

YOUR CHERRY “POPS” AFTER SEX

Sure, the hymen (which is a band of tissue in the back part of your vagina) can tear and bleed during your first sexual intercourse experience but it can also break by using a tampon, horse riding, or dancing! It is not always a first time sex thing.

There you have it! We hope you found this post useful – us busting vagina myths! What is a myth you believed growing up about your vagina or sex? 

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Here are some more benefits to getting outside (whether it’s a walk or just sitting in the garden) 

🐞Lowers your blood pressure, reduces stress and improves your mood. 

🐞The fresh air also helps you sleep better 

🐞Improves focus — Studies show that both adults and children who have difficulties focusing or controlling impulses are better able to concentrate after being in nature.

🐞Helps us heal quicker - patients who spent time outdoors during their recovery required fewer painkillers, had fewer complications and experienced shorter hospital stays. 

🐞Tops up your vitamin D - Which is an important vitamin for overall health, as well as strong and healthy bones

🐞Improves your immune system - A study published in 2010 evaluated the effect of forest bathing on immune function. For a group of Japanese adults, a three-day trip to the forest increased the number of white blood cells in their blood. These levels of white blood cells stayed elevated for more than 30 days after their adventure in the woods! 

🐞Fosters a better imagination and creativity in children 

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“To be pregnant is to be vitally alive, thorough “To be pregnant is to be vitally alive, thoroughly woman, and distressingly inhabited. Soul and spirit are stretched – along with body – making pregnancy a time of transition, growth, and profound beginnings.” — Anne Christian Buchanan

📸: @wildsoulphotography__
“Be patient with yourself. Nothing in nature blo “Be patient with yourself. Nothing in nature blooms all year round”
Love this quote and picture @mrskindonandco posted the other day. 

It reminded me that it’s ok to have days where I’m not my best self. There are days that are super hard to get through, and you’re just willing for it to be over. But those days pass. 

Don’t be afraid to take a step back, gather your thoughts, regroup. Putting yourself first sometimes is what will help you flourish!

📸: @mrskindonandco
Anyone else disappointed with the turn in the weat Anyone else disappointed with the turn in the weather recently?! 

Fear not! On our website we have a great article about how you can still enjoy yourself outdoors in the rain with the kids 🙌

Head on over and check it out. And comment down below your favourite outdoor rainy activities 🤎
I mean the other huge benefit to getting outside i I mean the other huge benefit to getting outside is the beautiful photos you can get 😍 

Thankyou to @beabea_and_me for tagging us in this gorgeous shot 

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