“My relationship with my Mother in Law is strained. She oversteps and interferes all the time. How can I set good boundaries with her?”
One of our lovely TMC followers needs some advice on how to deal with an upsetting situation.
What advice would you have for our follower in regards to setting boundaries without upsetting anyone?
Have you been in a similar situation? Do you have a strained relationship with a family member? What advice can you share?
TMC always aim to be a supportive and inclusive space, and we often receive messages asking for advice on all sort of things.
As much as we will always try our best to give advice we are only a little admin team and sometimes it may be things we do not know much about.
So therefore we wanted to create a way for you all to ask us (and all followers) for advice, and hopefully get the support you need.
It will always be anonymous and it can be on any subject. We are an open minded bunch and won’t judge anyone.
And finally, keep the comments kind!
What our community has said about setting boundaries
@gillinakomisbluejay I would say knowing your boundaries and sticking to them is important in this situation. Also if you’re able to communicate with your other half about how you feel about the situation they might be able to help you set these boundaries or talk to their mum about them.
@ciaraburnett_ So after having my daughter, my mother in law was as above – pushing me to let her have [baby] before I was even ready and saying it was for me as well as her. When she started coming home (one day a week at around 6 months old) she was so overtired she’d scream and wouldn’t sleep. I later found out that she was only having 15 minutes nap instead of at least two 45-hour naps because she wanted “to see and play with her”. I was harsh, and in this instance she was not happy at all and stopped taking her. Just before the pandemic happened. 2.5 years on, our relationship is getting better but not like it ever was, or will be. Do what’s best for your child and you, and just be prepared that they may not take it that well.
@thisparkerlife I can resonate with this, I was harsh… set the boundaries and said there’s no negotiation, my child my rules kinda thing, and if they don’t like it then don’t visit. It totally worked, but I can understand people not wanting to do it that way x