BY VICTORIA BEDDOW (GUEST WRITER)
My fiancee proposed on my birthday in January 2019, we had just celebrated our 9 Year anniversary and I could not wait to start planning. Planning our dream wedding went so smoothly. We both had a vision of what we wanted our day to look like and we had no arguments over it. He was the perfect companion and apart from bridal appointments he turned up to every booking we had. Whether it be the venue or flowers he was there. We finished planning our day with about 10 months to just chill and relax with our date being 09/05/20. Then Covid-19 happened. As did a postponed wedding & not just once..
I remember having a dress fitting apt in the beginning of march and the alterations lady was saying ‘are you excited?’ I replied ‘ I am not getting married in May’. Literally stood in my dress saying I will not get married I guarantee it. I just knew.
POSTPONED WEDDING
On 19/03/20 we made the decision to postpone our wedding for the first time and, honestly it couldn’t had gone any better. All of our suppliers were quite happy to move our deposits over and we had literally just picked up our wedding and moved it 6 months over. Our new date was 07/11/20.
I cried so much though when reality hit. I had been with the father of my son at this point for 10 years but I only had to wait 6 months for my perfect day.
When our wedding week came I tortured myself with ‘oh it’s Thursday I’d be getting my nails done now’ or, ‘oh it’s Saturday morning at 10am I should be getting my makeup done now’. When 2pm came I should’ve been walking down the aisle. But me and my partner played our wedding music and we actually did our first dance in our living room. And then I just balled. I was not a bride. I kept thinking I’d be on my honeymoon now and it was hell. And I did it to myself which made it worse.
Fast forward to 01/08/20 and once again we decided to postpone. We were not confident that the world would be right by then so once again we rang around and everyone was so supportive and moved us all over AGAIN. I made an announcement on social media and I was having people message me who I hadn’t spoken to in years saying how deeply sorry they were for us. Our November wedding day came and went and I didn’t cry. I just felt numb. I tenner going for a walk with my dad and son and, I looked at my phone and it said the time was 2pm. I said ‘dad, you should be walking me down the aisle now, not be walking in a park’ and he said ‘ it will happen I promise’
30/12/20 I remember saying to my partner ‘I am going to marry you next year’ and I wish I hadn’t said that. I had already done the whole last Christmas as a miss and I was doing it again and, I did feel at that point It would be my last Christmas as a miss.
13/01/21 we ONCE AGAIN decided to postpone. Let me clarify why all these times we have postponed. We have a day guest number of 70-75 and evening 120-130. Each time we both knew that amount of people would not be allowed under the same roof and, a lot of our guests are over the age of 50 and I could not think of anything worse than someone getting Ill. We did think about doing a registry office wedding with 15 people but, we didn’t like the idea of that day being our wedding day and the party day being ‘faked’ with a celebrant. Also, every single guest was invited for a reason and we couldn’t see ourselves getting married without everyone we love there.
As I am writing this, there have been three covid vaccines approved and two of them being distributed. By the time the end of the year arrives everyone who wishes to have the vaccine should had received it. So we postponed to 01/05/22. We went with a year and not a few months because we had learnt our lesson that months at a time were not enough.
The first two wedding dates were in England spent in a full lockdown so, I couldn’t even see my friends and family for support or to even have a cuddle with them. We were on our own just grieving our lost days. A postponed wedding was never something I imagined having happen to me.
Thankfully, myself and my partner are in a position where we can wait for our big day and there is no rush to be married. So each time we have decided to postpone and I’d do it all again.
We acknowledge that we have been very VERY fortunate with being able to move our weddings over for only £180 extra. We had to pay £80 to move our registrar from Nov to May and I imagine we will have that cost again to move a whole year and, my make up artist hired a second artist to help who charges a little more so asked for £20 extra which I was happy to do. We are so thankful to all of our suppliers who have been so willing to move us over. I cannot believe that I have planned four weddings and they have all been with the exact same suppliers and have not had to research someone else if they had been busy.
Our day will come.
Have you postponed a wedding this year? How did you feel?
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