“I am struggling to remember who I was before I was a parent”
One of our lovely TMC followers needs some advice on the subject of how to find themselves after becoming a parent.
If you’ve ever had this experience, what advice would you share?
TMC always aim to be a supportive and inclusive space, and we often receive messages asking for advice on all sort of things.
As much as we will always try our best to give advice we are only our little admin team and sometimes it may be things we do not know much about.
So therefore we wanted to create a way for you all to ask us (and all followers) for advice, and hopefully get the support you need.
It will always be anonymous and it can be on any subject. We are an open minded bunch and won’t judge anyone.
What our community has said:
Roshni: Something I’ve struggled with after having both and very recently with going to to work after Matleave ❤️ advice would be to talk to other mamas, you’re not alone, we all feel this way at some point after becoming a parent. Get out and do something for YOU without babies/kiddies, something you enjoyed before they took over, remember the joy and that feeling it gave you ❤️
Victoria: Same! But I think I manage it by embracing who I am now and getting to know her. Returning to work after maternity leave really helped me to find a part of me that had been important before Noah and is just as important to me now. I’ve lost my spontaneous Friday drinks and peaceful Sunday night baths but I’ve found playdates and cuppas with other mums and a feeling of joy, happiness and pride like nothing I’d never known before. What is it that you miss about the person you were before you became a mama, you might not be able to go back to how it was but can you reintroduce elements bit by bit – figure out to make them part of your new life, or maybe even realise that you don’t need those things so much anymore after all xxx
Do you have any further advice for our mama? Please remember to keep the comments kind.